We live in a culture of toxic positivity. Or, as I like to call it – toxitivity.

Sure, it’s great to feel upbeat and optimistic and positive. The problem is when these messages create harm to mental health.

Like when we’re feeling anger or sorrow, toxitivity tells us we’re being “too negative” and we should just focus on the positive.

Like when we raise genuine issues that are troubling us, toxitivity tells us we’re “starting drama” and we should just “let it go”.

Like when we hold people accountable for their actions, toxitivity tells us we’re being too judgmental, and we should just forgive and rise above.

Like when we discuss problems with others, toxitivity tells us we’re “spreading hate” and we should uplift each other with love and light, instead.

Like when we’re experiencing struggles, toxitivity minimises them by reminding us that others have it so much worse, so we should just be grateful.

Positive, inspiring messages are great – as long as they don’t cause us to ignore our darker thoughts and feelings.

True mental health only comes from integrating all parts of ourselves – positive and negative, “good” and “bad”, and light and dark.