On taking online mental health advice

By |2019-10-23T20:19:26+11:00October 23rd, 2019|Categories: Mental Health|Tags: , |

There’s often some interesting mental health advice online. Of course, everyone has an opinion and this is the internet where anyone can say anything. Perhaps it’s wise to reflect on the qualifications of the advice-giver, in providing their opinion. Not because qualifications equal credibility, but because they give accountability. Health professions are regulated to ensure [...]

Beyond RUOK day

By |2019-09-12T21:55:56+10:00September 12th, 2019|Categories: Mental Health|Tags: |

Today is R U OK? day. It’s as good an opportunity as any to reflect on our wellbeing and check in with those around us. When you do, please keep in mind that psychological distress and mental illness are far more complex than asking a single question. While many people have a genetic predisposition, our [...]

“Mmm, bacon”

By |2019-08-29T20:31:25+10:00August 29th, 2019|Categories: Activism, Veganism|Tags: , , , |

There’s no shortage of “mmm, bacon” comments on social media these days. In a way, I look forward to them. Not because of their originality or hilarity, but because of what they represent. Cognitive dissonance. That feeling of discomfort when one’s actions contradict one’s beliefs. There’s three ways to handle the cognitive dissonance of “loving [...]

The animals are suffering and so are you

By |2019-08-26T20:48:17+10:00August 26th, 2019|Categories: Activism|Tags: , , |

When we’re advocating for animals, it’s tempting to say things like “you think it’s rough for you, imagine what the animals are going through!” I get it. Most of us do have tremendous privilege compared to animals.  Here’s the problem: when we minimize someone’s suffering through comparison, we’re distorting their subjective experience to suit our [...]

Why vegans must speak up

By |2019-08-04T19:15:13+10:00August 4th, 2019|Categories: Activism|Tags: , |

It’s important for vegans to keep speaking up. Why? Because people don’t know what they don’t know. Twelve years ago, I hardly knew what a vegan was. Five years ago, I didn’t know what minimalism was. Three years ago, I didn’t know what zero waste was all about. Thank goodness for the people who kept [...]

Compassion versus veganism

By |2019-07-18T20:10:33+10:00July 18th, 2019|Categories: Activism, Veganism|Tags: , |

“I thought veganism was about compassion for everyone, including humans!” Unfortunately some people use this statement as a silencing tactic. Compassion is experiencing someone’s suffering and taking steps to alleviate their pain. Some people take this literally, and expect us to tell them only what they want to hear. Perhaps they want vegans to be [...]

Veganism vs Reducetarianism

By |2019-07-17T21:23:03+10:00July 17th, 2019|Categories: Veganism|Tags: , |

I support reducetarianism ONLY IF it’s a pit stop on the way to veganism. While eating less flesh does mean that fewer animals are slaughtered, the fact is that vegetarian or flexitarian or reducetarian diets still require animal harm. In other social justice movements, is less an ultimate goal? Fewer cases of child abuse and [...]

Beware the lure of toxic positivity

By |2019-07-15T21:48:08+10:00July 15th, 2019|Categories: Mental Health|Tags: , |

We live in a culture of toxic positivity. Or, as I like to call it - toxitivity. Sure, it’s great to feel upbeat and optimistic and positive. The problem is when these messages create harm to mental health. Like when we’re feeling anger or sorrow, toxitivity tells us we’re being “too negative” and we should [...]

Parenting: Let’s stop defending the status quo

By |2017-07-19T20:22:26+10:00July 19th, 2017|Categories: Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Just because we did something yesterday, doesn't mean we have to do it today. Each day gives fresh insight, which allows us to progress. Perhaps we used to do "time-out", or spank, or yell. Perhaps we used to neglect our health or allow our inner voice to say terrible things to us. Just because we [...]