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Parenting: Let’s stop defending the status quo

Just because we did something yesterday, doesn't mean we have to do it today. Each day gives fresh insight, which allows us to progress. Perhaps we used to do "time-out", or spank, or yell. Perhaps we used to neglect our health or allow our inner voice to say terrible things to us. Just because we [...]

Teaching kids the habit of toxic guilt

Guilt feels yuck. But in some instances, guilt is healthy. And it's important to distinguish healthy guilt, from toxic guilt - because toxic guilt eats away at our wellbeing, our happiness, and our relationships. Here's the distinction. Healthy guilt arises from our own action or inaction - like when we yell at the kids or [...]

The 75 most important words for kids (and adults)

I just celebrated my 36th birthday. I'm a year older, and I'm pretty sure I'm a bit wiser. Sometimes I think about going back in time to my younger self, and the advice I'd impart. Although I don't have a time machine (yet), I think I'd share words that would offer the greatest benefit to my life [...]

No, our kids are not ok

"You're ok". We need to delete this phrase from our parenting vocabulary. Picture this: A young child, contentedly playing at a park. He falls over. He cries. He runs to his parent. And his parent utters the words "you're ok". I get why we do this. We, with our mature brains and capacity for insight, [...]

By |2017-07-09T18:49:30+00:00November 24th, 2016|Categories: Behaviour, Children, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

Are we all getting sucked into the Mummy Wars?

I'm tired of the Mummy Wars. And I know I'm not alone. I've spoken with countless mothers who have expressed, in some way, their disgust at the shaming and blaming that goes on within parenting communities. Particularly online, it seems. In fact, the Mummy Wars seem to be at their worst online - due to [...]

Sensory sensitivity: Coping with meltdowns

There's a range of developmental challenges that young kids can face, and sensory sensitivity is just one of them. Sensory sensitivity can include any one (or several) of the following: hyper- or hypo-sensitivity to sound, light, pain, touch, pressure, texture, temperature, taste, and smell. I'm often asked about behaviour management in these kids, and whether [...]

By |2017-07-09T18:49:30+00:00October 1st, 2016|Categories: Behaviour, Early development, Parenting|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Positive parenting. Are we just rewarding kids for bad behaviour?

The style of parenting I promote has many names - gentle parenting, peaceful parenting, and positive parenting. Semantics aside, what these styles have in common is responsiveness - to ourselves as well as our children. Responsive parenting reflects not only our own practices, but also the type of relationship we wish to have with our [...]

By |2017-07-09T18:49:30+00:00September 21st, 2016|Categories: Children, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments

Parenting sucks. And that’s a good thing.

It's not just sometimes, either. The sucky moments can come in thick and fast. We get stressed, angry, or frustrated. Or maybe the kids do. They act up. We act up. We feel guilty. And on it goes. But, all of this is countered by the beautiful, glorious parenting moments. Those times when we feel at [...]

Five ways to help little kids with big feelings

Little kids experience lots of big feelings, like anger, frustration, overwhelm, worry, and sadness. On the inside, these feeling are uncomfortable and often scary. On the outside, they tend to manifest in the same way - crying, screaming, throwing, kicking, etc. Little kids feel emotions just as we do, but they don't have the insight [...]

The mother of all tantrums

Today, my son had the wildest, most epic tantrum of his young life. He's just turned two, which means that tantrums aren't unexpected. And it probably means that I haven't seen the worst of it yet, either. It all happened at lunchtime. He decided to eat lunch out of his bunny bowl, rather than his [...]