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Parenting: Let’s stop defending the status quo

Just because we did something yesterday, doesn't mean we have to do it today. Each day gives fresh insight, which allows us to progress. Perhaps we used to do "time-out", or spank, or yell. Perhaps we used to neglect our health or allow our inner voice to say terrible things to us. Just because we [...]

Teaching kids the habit of toxic guilt

Guilt feels yuck. But in some instances, guilt is healthy. And it's important to distinguish healthy guilt, from toxic guilt - because toxic guilt eats away at our wellbeing, our happiness, and our relationships. Here's the distinction. Healthy guilt arises from our own action or inaction - like when we yell at the kids or [...]

No, our kids are not ok

"You're ok". We need to delete this phrase from our parenting vocabulary. Picture this: A young child, contentedly playing at a park. He falls over. He cries. He runs to his parent. And his parent utters the words "you're ok". I get why we do this. We, with our mature brains and capacity for insight, [...]

By |2017-07-09T18:49:30+10:00November 24th, 2016|Categories: Behaviour, Children, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

Are we all getting sucked into the Mummy Wars?

I'm tired of the Mummy Wars. And I know I'm not alone. I've spoken with countless mothers who have expressed, in some way, their disgust at the shaming and blaming that goes on within parenting communities. Particularly online, it seems. In fact, the Mummy Wars seem to be at their worst online - due to [...]

Positive parenting. Are we just rewarding kids for bad behaviour?

The style of parenting I promote has many names - gentle parenting, peaceful parenting, and positive parenting. Semantics aside, what these styles have in common is responsiveness - to ourselves as well as our children. Responsive parenting reflects not only our own practices, but also the type of relationship we wish to have with our [...]

By |2017-07-09T18:49:30+10:00September 21st, 2016|Categories: Children, Parenting|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments